$500 reaction to a $5 situation…..

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“WHAT?!  How is the possible…..I can’t believe it…….that is soooo unfair……they don’t love me………”

This week I had what I call a $500 reaction to a $5 situation.  Which basically means I COMPLETELY over-reacted.

When I over-react like that, I know to look for the emotion deep inside.  Somewhere in  my heart is an injured place that needs to be brought forward for healing and truth.

This situation was wrapped up in so many others this week.  All with intertwining thoughts and storylines.

The main theme was what Renee Swope talks about in her book A Confident Heart as I continue that study this week with Proverbs 31 Ministries.  Our hashtag this week is #IAmNot   So let’s refute some stinkin’ thinkin’ a bit today.

Or if we think in terms Perfect Isle and Oopsland (cuz that’s the language of this blog) ……….I was spending all of my time in Perfect Isle and it was really getting me down.

One example of how these AM thoughts (against me) impact my life negatively happened on Saturday morning:

  • I had gotten up early to get a lot done.  I had high (UNREALISTIC) expectations for the day.  As I went about  my morning schedule and ran errands, NOTHING was working out.  I mean nothing.  My path was not efficient, the places I needed to go were not working out, the people were frustrating me….etc etc etc
  • I was getting so down on myself, that by 10:30am I thought I had FAILED so much and was so INCOMPETANT I may as well toss in the towel for the rest of the day.


It was only 10:30am.  How can 1 person fail that much in less than half a day?  But I had convinced myself I was that awful.  Might as well quit.  Expectations like these come straight from Perfect Isle.

Luckily I caught my stinking thinking…..but I wrote some of them down and will refute them here.  I am still on a journey to Oopsland, and as I transform, I am catching these things earlier and earlier before they get out of hand.

Messages that were in my head:

  • Perfect Isle:  “You are so incompetent you can’t even plan a Saturday morning agenda to the best use of your time”
  • #IAmNot
  • Oopsland:  “It’s ok….did you enjoy your longer cup of coffee this morning?  Maybe you needed a few extra minutes at home today”

“When I said, ‘My foot is slipping,’ your love, O Lord, supported me. When anxiety was great within me, your consolation brought joy to my soul.” Psalm 94:18-19

“….he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion…” Phillipians 1:6
  • Perfect Isle:  “You are so stupid that you don’t even know things other people learned in grade-school”
  • #IAmNot
  • Oopsland:  “You’ve lived such an adventurous life, that information got pushed out when you were jumping off mountains in the Andes”

“Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the desert, streams in the wasteland.” Isaiah 43:18-19

  •  Perfect Isle:  “You were supposed to connect with these 10 people a week ago….and you haven’t even followed up….everyone else did”
  • #IAmNot
  • Oopsland:  “It’s ok…you need to do it soon but the world will not end because you didn’t do it last Monday”

“If God is for us, who can be against us?”  Romans 8:31b

  • Perfect Isle:  “You lost that opportunity just like you always do….clueless, lazy, dreamer, disorganized….etc etc”
  • #IAmNot
  • Oopsland:  “You probably got a better opportunity because you were focused on new creations and looking forward”

“But God chose the foolish things of the world to shame the wise; God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong.” I Corinthians 1:27


Let’s all start refuting these negative messages about our failures declaring #IAmNot just as Renee Swope is teaching so many of us in her book.


  • RESOURCES if you need something:
  • If you are looking for resources for Inner Healing Prayer…..I received certification under Ed Smith.  I trust all of their teachings.   http://www.theophostic.com/
  • A simpler, individual guide to learn Inner Healing Prayer for yourself that compliments Ed Smith’s teachings, is from Lillian Easterly Smith (not related).  I serve under her here in Michigan at Lifecare Christian Center and trust her teachings as well:     The Great Exchange: Replacing Lies with Experiential Truth by Lillian M. Easterly-Smith BCPC 









  1. Thanks so much for sharing! I’m a former Perfect Isle inhabitant myself. Swimming against the current to get away, but I DID jump off! Keep going!

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    • Love that visual of swimming against the current……I often think of the rip tide in the ocean….swim parallel to the shore…go against your instincts or the current will carry you far out into the ocean. May we all swim against the rip tide :)

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  2. Hi Billie…I love the scriptures you shared here. And I love how we can apply the Word of God in our lives to push us forward towards the things of God and a life n pursuit of righteousness without condemnation. We can accept correction and encouragement to do things better but not beat ourselves up about our failures or allow them to become our identity. Blessings! ~ Shelly (OBS Leadership/Blog Hop Team)

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    • Well said Shelly! What a blessing that you stopped by :) Hugs!

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    • Thanks Steph! Love connecting Truth back to our identities in Christ. xo

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  3. Always love reading your posts. The way you go from finding fault/ failures to something positive over the negative feelings of things not going the way they were planned. Thanks for the scriptures you shared .
    Marilyn (OBS Group Leader)

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    • Thanks Marilyn – you are always such an encouragement to me!

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  4. I am loving your failing forward statements!! And I applaud you for sharing them with a friend. It does encourage me to know that these thoughts, bends, tendencies can ALL be refuted with the powerful word of God. I am thankful for Oopsland-it’s my kind of people #IAMNOT a failure!!

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    • Amen Valerie! Claim it – Oopsland peeps are definitely your kind of people!

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